Comments for TeachingHelp.org http://www.teachinghelp.org The Writings of Kim Higginbotham Mon, 15 May 2017 18:59:07 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=4.8.1 Comment on Giving Your Child to the Devil by admin http://www.teachinghelp.org/giving-your-child-to-the-devil/#comment-30003 Mon, 15 May 2017 18:59:07 +0000 http://www.teachinghelp.org/?p=2617#comment-30003 Thank you for asking a very valid question. Believing in God does not equate with obeying God. Our son is a Christian, but he has left the truth of God to follow after his sin of choice. We patiently talked, prayed, waited….repeat for 6 years. Many people have said that we hate our son and that our decision is based on his particular sin, but that is completely false. In the New Testament book of Hebrews 9:5-11, it says that if a father loves his child, he disciplines him. It is not pleasant, but painful for everyone. Our hope is that one day he sees his sin for what it is and comes back to his faith. Until then, we will not accept the profane, blasphemous, and sinful choices. We love him, but we love the Lord more. I hope that clarifies a little.

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Comment on Giving Your Child to the Devil by Teresa Clark http://www.teachinghelp.org/giving-your-child-to-the-devil/#comment-29935 Sun, 14 May 2017 21:48:51 +0000 http://www.teachinghelp.org/?p=2617#comment-29935 Well said Kim.

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Comment on Giving Your Child to the Devil by admin http://www.teachinghelp.org/giving-your-child-to-the-devil/#comment-29927 Sun, 14 May 2017 18:57:18 +0000 http://www.teachinghelp.org/?p=2617#comment-29927 After having read several replies to my article, I saw several common misconceptions that were continually being made. Therefore, I thought I might clear a few of these up for some readers.

1. Unconditional Love Is Not The Same Thing As Acceptance. Nearly everyone who has written to me has “scolded” me for not loving my child “unconditionally.” Their accusation is false. I do love my child unconditionally. There is nothing that my child could ever do to make me stop loving him. I believe that’s what unconditional love is, and that’s what I practice. However, many are apparently confused being unable to distinguish between unconditional love and acceptance. While I will never stop loving my son, I refuse to accept the sin of which my son remains unrepentant. God is indeed a God of love, but have so many forgotten that this “God of love” disciplines his children, even “giving them up” (Romans 1:24,26,28), and will some day eternally separate himself from them? God doesn’t stop loving his children, but his love doesn’t keep him from separating himself from them (Isaiah 59:1-2). I think if people would read the prophets, they’d be shocked to see how their short-sighted view of love is overturned by God’s genuine response of love. Furthermore, you might do well to remember that a man, a good man, came to Jesus and asked him what he needed to do to be saved. Jesus told him, and the man was unwilling to do it. But don’t miss this. The text says that Jesus, looking at him, loved him. But he let him walk away. He didn’t call him back. He didn’t change his terms. He loved him, but let him walk away (Mark 10:21-22). The fact that our son has walked away from us doesn’t mean we have stopped loving him.

2. Jesus Loved Sinners, even socializing with them. Of course he did. And so do I. But what many are failing to understand is that there are two types of sinners. Sinners who are outside the body of Christ (still in the world), and sinners who are part of the body of Christ (brethren). The inspired apostle Paul said they are to be treated differently (1 Corinthians 5:9-11). The Corinthians had a question about keeping company with sinners and Paul told them they had misunderstood his instructions. He said that he was not forbidding Christians from keeping company with sinners, otherwise, we couldn’t live in the world. Instead, he was telling them that they were not to keep company or fellowship, not even to eat with a sinner who is a BROTHER in Christ. I’m not surprised that so many failed to see this distinction because it isn’t frequently preached, and it is even more seldom put into practice. But it is in the Bible…read it for yourself.

3. What Is The Sin That Is So Terrible That You Would “Abandon” Your Son? First of all, we haven’t “abandoned” our son. He has abandoned us. We are right where we have always been. Even the prophet Amos said that two cannot walk together unless they be agreed (Amos 3:3). He chose to walk down a path of sin; a path in which we will not walk with him, nor will we endorse him as he walks it. My loyalty is first to God, not my family (Matthew 10:34-37). Second, the specific sin is irrelevant. My response would be the same if he were unrepentant with regard to any sin. Of course, I’m not talking about sins of momentary human weakness, sins committed in the moment, or sins we are trying to fight. I’m talking about sins to which we have given ourselves. Sins we no longer fight, but to which we have surrendered ourselves. Again, the doctrine of discipline is ignored by many Christians today, and so they, along with the world, are shocked to learn of such doctrine. But if you believe the Bible to be the word of God, then it’s there staring you in the face, and you have a decision to obey or disobey it (1 Corinthians 5:1-13; 2 Thessalonians 3:6,14-15).

And one final thought. Those who have, through their “feigned” righteous indignation, called for my death; prayed that I rot in Hell; proposed sexual acts be done to me; cursed at me with the vilest of profanities; and who have blasphemed the God I serve…let me assure you of this one thing…Your hateful words have only solidified my stance. Your hate speech, draped in feigned concern and love for God and my son, have served to remind me that I live in a fallen world. Your words have emboldened me and have not caused me to shrink. Your words have deepened my roots. I will not be moved. In fact, your words have actually given me reason to rejoice in that you have allowed me the privilege, however small it may be, to share in the suffering of Jesus. “But rejoice to the extent that you partake of Christ’s sufferings…” (1 Peter 4:13).

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Comment on Giving Your Child to the Devil by Amanda McCarver http://www.teachinghelp.org/giving-your-child-to-the-devil/#comment-29843 Thu, 11 May 2017 22:17:36 +0000 http://www.teachinghelp.org/?p=2617#comment-29843 Dear Kim,

My heart hurts for you and Steve. I can not begin to express my sorrow for what your family has been enduring. I admire your courage, strength and dedication to the Lord. Our prayers will be with your family continually. May your son’s heart be softened to lead him back to the Savior and to you.

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Comment on Giving Your Child to the Devil by Susan Aragon http://www.teachinghelp.org/giving-your-child-to-the-devil/#comment-29836 Thu, 11 May 2017 17:20:10 +0000 http://www.teachinghelp.org/?p=2617#comment-29836 I did not know Kim. I am so, so sorry that you’ve been going through such pain and I did not know. I knew something was wrong, but I didn’t ask, not because I didn’t care but because I didn’t want to upset you or Steve by asking. I am just so devastated for you and over the pain you feel. I am so angry at Satan, the father of lies, the evil one. We are truly at war. We cannot lose this war. As a parent, this terrifies me. You keep fighting the good fight. May God give you strength and may He give you some kind of peace. Keep praying. Keep doing what you know is right. Fight to the end. We fight along side you. I love you. My heart breaks for you both.

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Comment on Giving Your Child to the Devil by David http://www.teachinghelp.org/giving-your-child-to-the-devil/#comment-29834 Thu, 11 May 2017 14:15:36 +0000 http://www.teachinghelp.org/?p=2617#comment-29834 Prayers, support, and appreciation. So many of us needed this. Thank you for sharing.

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Comment on Giving Your Child to the Devil by Kathy http://www.teachinghelp.org/giving-your-child-to-the-devil/#comment-29817 Thu, 11 May 2017 02:13:18 +0000 http://www.teachinghelp.org/?p=2617#comment-29817 Kim I think and pray for you and Steve often. I look at my girls and worry so about all they could go through in their lives, it is so scary. I cannot imagine how you feel but know I think of you. Sorry seems like so little to say.

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Comment on Giving Your Child to the Devil by Debi http://www.teachinghelp.org/giving-your-child-to-the-devil/#comment-29819 Thu, 11 May 2017 01:42:57 +0000 http://www.teachinghelp.org/?p=2617#comment-29819 My heart aches for you. We do the best we can as parents but somehow everything seems upside down. I have had similar experiences. I have a grandson who was taken from me after his parents divorce. He was told many lies about me and his dad. I have had children who were so angry with me they wouldn’t talk with me for years. I hate this for you. I pray your son will come back to the Lord and to you. May God look down upon you and bless you for your efforts to follow Him. I pray also that He will ease the burden you carry. Love -Debi

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Comment on Giving Your Child to the Devil by Judy Brown http://www.teachinghelp.org/giving-your-child-to-the-devil/#comment-29777 Wed, 10 May 2017 15:09:49 +0000 http://www.teachinghelp.org/?p=2617#comment-29777 As I sit here crying for the hurt you both feel, I am also so proud of you for standing up and doing the right thing. There are so many that do not want to turn their backs on their family members. That is not the right way to think about it; they have turned their backs on God and we just want them to return home to Him and to us. You are in our prayers. Never give up. When he hits rock bottom, there is no place to look but UP.

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Comment on Giving Your Child to the Devil by admin http://www.teachinghelp.org/giving-your-child-to-the-devil/#comment-29556 Tue, 09 May 2017 12:16:08 +0000 http://www.teachinghelp.org/?p=2617#comment-29556 Thank you Beth.

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